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Protect yourself: STIs and HIV/AIDS

Today's Lesson

Sex is a fact of life! Sooner or later, we will all be confronted with the fact that adults and, to a certain degree, adolescents have sex. This lesson aims to help you get the right information on sex, risks, dangers and choices. Today we are going to stand up for our choices. If you decide to have sex, whenever that might be, you need to know what the risks are and how to avoid them.

At the end of this lesson, we will all be aware of the real and present dangers of unsafe sex and sexually transmitted infections. Maybe you think you already know about this, but it is always a good idea to repeat an important message, to read and hear it again.

In the presentation, you will be informed about risks and STIs; you will get instruction on how to use condoms. Then we will be dealing with decision-making. At the end of the presentation, you will be quizzed on your knowledge and opinions. And you will practice negotiating safe sex.
This lesson is all about risks, but, above all, it is about your choices.

Todays Program

Warming Up - Bodyguards and Secret Agents (5 mins)
Protect yourself! from STIs and HIV/AIDS - Presentation (35 mins)
Safe Sex Quiz (15 mins)
Discussion + Negotiation skills (35 mins)
Conclusion and homework (5 mins)
Tools, Games & Materials

Negotiation skills guidelines

When you want to talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend about delaying or abstaining from sexual intercourse, engaging in an alternative sexual activity or using condoms or contraceptives, keep the following points in mind:

1. Timing: choose your time well
Have your talk at a moment when you are not in the middle of a romantic or sexual situation. It is difficult to talk about your decision and your feelings in the heat of the moment. For example, while you are taking a walk or having lunch together might be a good time. If you do happen to be in the heat of the moment, stick to the following guidelines.

2. Give a clear message
Keep your message clear and to the point. For example, you might say, 'I have decided not to have sex because I don't feel ready or I don't want to risk getting an STI or getting pregnant.' Or you could say, 'I would like to have sex with you, but I won't unless we use protection.' Use clear non-verbal language: look serious and do not smile to please the other person.

If your partner resists or pressurizes you, it often works to repeat the message and give further explanation. For example, you might say, 'I decided not to have sex yet because I like to concentrate on my studies and sex distracts me' or 'I like to wait till I feel that our relationship is strong enough for having sex.'

If your partner still resists or pressurizes you, tell your partner how you feel. For example, you might say, 'I feel like you do not hear what I'm saying', 'You're not listening to me and all you're thinking about is your own desires' or 'Because you're not listening to me, I'm not sure if you really love me.'

3. Be Firm
Once you've made the decision that is right for you, be firm about it - and remember: there is no need to feel guilty. This can be difficult because we often want to please the people we care about, but being firm is not the same as being rude or mean.

4. Stick to your decision
Following through on your decision will be an ongoing process. If you are in a romantic relationship, the decision about sex and protection will come up many times. If your decision has been 'no sex', you will need to back up your commitment in spite of your own sexual feelings or pressure from your partner. If you choose to use condoms, you will always need to have a supply on hand and use them each and every time you have sex.

Examples of this Lesson

GlossaryRWPF • Butterfly • DEC Partners • Credits